Does True Love Exist ?

Someone asked me two weeks ago...`Do you really think you can find true love?' The first thing that came to my mind was, `Well, it's a remote possiblity, but hey, you'll never know... I might just get lucky and find my true love'. I didn't bother to answer that guy cos I think he was bordering on being nasty for the rest of message.

I just shrugged it off and told myself, `Huh, another bitter person disappointed in love, better not let him make me lose hope'. Somehow, at the back of my mind, it kept nagging me. How do we find our true love ? Out of the millions of people, out of the many many factors affecting our lives, how do we find our true love in this crazy mess ? It seems pretty hopeless. Maybe that guy is right, it's an impossible feat.

How come some people got so lucky ? How come some people found their true love and live together until `death do us part'? At that time... all seemed hopeless and I m getting older by the seconds! Less and less opportunity in an already hopeless situation... I was going to press the panic button.

Then I told myself...`Oh, never mind, if I can't find it then at the end of the day, I can tell myself, I tried but I didn't succeed' But that self-assurance didn't quite satisfy me and I am the type who won't rest until I get a satisfactory answer. But hey, who am I ? For hundreds of years so many people have been talking about the same thing and no one seems to know the answer. And I want a satisfactory answer in a matter of days ? Hmmm.... silly me! And really silly of me to allow such a question ruffle me up like that. So I decided to meditate to dissolve all the negative feelings.

I learnt that meditating helps us to calm down but more recently I realised , it also helps me to get the answers I was seeking. So, while meditating one night, came the `light'... hehehe! There it was, plain as day.... the answer I was searching!

True Love is not for us to find !!! Oh gosh !!! That's why so many of us who are looking for it can never find it.... oh my! We have been going at it all the wrong ways. We hope to find true love, all packaged and ready to eat.... just pop it into the microwave and you can have true love... much like our food these days. And no matter how hard we tried, we can never find it. Somehow Mr. Right or Miss Right never seem to arrive. Sometimes too late but mostly, almost never.


I realised true love, is something that needs to be nurtured by two persons. Something that has to grow from a relationship between two persons. And the best part is, it doesn't have to be Mr. or Miss Right. It's never there for you to find, but you can develop true love together with time and effort.

The ingredients ? The ups and downs, the fights and tender moments, the sacrifices and rewards, the patience and understanding, the communications and misunderstandings... all rolled into one.

After a while, something beautiful blossoms... that is true love. Love without terms and conditions, love without borders... love which you know will always stay with you forever. That is true love.